I really think dating apps can really bring out this almost desperate validation seeking behavior by default. It feeds off of people pushing their standards, or for settling for less than they desire so they don’t feel alone. Great writing!
this was so honest and resonant. I felt seen reading this. the “I’m not my type’s type” hit like a brick and a hug simultaneously. thank you for writing through the ache with so much wit and clarity. sending you love and also… yes to the bigger boobs part. xo
This is sooo incredibly topical to my life right now! Thank you for writing. I am here to say from the rooftops: you ARE hot. Your mind is gorgeous, and you are destined to be with someone who aches for you just as much as you ache for them.
hi. I totally understand what you're saying and going through. I experienced something similar when I was younger. However, I think you're much more beautiful than you give yourself credit for. And the guys who don't appreciate you are missing out! I know it's easy to say but hard to believe. Trust me. I used to say to my friends I would die alone and have 20 cats that would eat my face. And yet, even a gruesome future cat lady (what I believed I was when I was younger) found someone special. He thinks I'm pretty no matter how I change my look. Your future person is undoubtedly going to think you're beautiful, not only because you are, but because he/she/they (sorry I know you spoke about men but I don't want to assume) can see you clearly. All of your mess and personality and charm. I promise. ;)
this was such a brilliant piece to read, it was almost as if i was reading your thoughts unfold, like kind of watching trying to navigate between heartbreak and humour. you've really touched on quite a devastating truth, and you capture it with a lot of clarity. made me feel seen in a way i wasn't expecting. extremely human and real. thank you for sharing <3xxx
I really think dating apps can really bring out this almost desperate validation seeking behavior by default. It feeds off of people pushing their standards, or for settling for less than they desire so they don’t feel alone. Great writing!
this was so honest and resonant. I felt seen reading this. the “I’m not my type’s type” hit like a brick and a hug simultaneously. thank you for writing through the ache with so much wit and clarity. sending you love and also… yes to the bigger boobs part. xo
So raw and real. Loved it
thank you 🥹 xx
This is sooo incredibly topical to my life right now! Thank you for writing. I am here to say from the rooftops: you ARE hot. Your mind is gorgeous, and you are destined to be with someone who aches for you just as much as you ache for them.
you are so sweet 🫶🏼 thank you for reading and for the kind words... and ditto, you are gorgeous, hot, and have a beautiful mind 🫶🏼
🤍🤍 girls rule!
The honesty that hits so hard because it's very hard to admit that internal is just not enough sometimes (or most times). Thank you.
hi. I totally understand what you're saying and going through. I experienced something similar when I was younger. However, I think you're much more beautiful than you give yourself credit for. And the guys who don't appreciate you are missing out! I know it's easy to say but hard to believe. Trust me. I used to say to my friends I would die alone and have 20 cats that would eat my face. And yet, even a gruesome future cat lady (what I believed I was when I was younger) found someone special. He thinks I'm pretty no matter how I change my look. Your future person is undoubtedly going to think you're beautiful, not only because you are, but because he/she/they (sorry I know you spoke about men but I don't want to assume) can see you clearly. All of your mess and personality and charm. I promise. ;)
this was such a brilliant piece to read, it was almost as if i was reading your thoughts unfold, like kind of watching trying to navigate between heartbreak and humour. you've really touched on quite a devastating truth, and you capture it with a lot of clarity. made me feel seen in a way i wasn't expecting. extremely human and real. thank you for sharing <3xxx